tormentor or mentor? it’s all how you look at it… is that “jerk” really just teaching you a lesson? most often there are lessons all around us. sometimes the lesson is just to stay clear of someone’s negative energy. once we start looking, there’s always something (and revealing) to see. what we perceive as pain ..read more..

Take the time to notice someone doing something with thought and care and thank them. Simple. “Thanks for packing the Cheetos so nicely. There’s nothing worse than gettting home to smooshed Cheetos.” That simple comment just might make somebody’s day. Recognized or not, care is an extension and expression of love. The world needs us ..read more..

“yes” just feels better. we seem to use it sparingly these days, no? so much is competing for our attention. so much begs us to distraction. “no” is the new guardian. i try to say “no” to things that are easy, because there’s probably not too much upside. i try to say “yes” to things ..read more..

the happiness channel is always on, and it’s free. the misery channel is always on, and it’s free, too. the things you notice every day are effected by whichever channel is on in the background. it seems easier to notice all the things that are “wrong” around us when we’re in a funk, then to ..read more..

“Resist and you get more strength.” These were the words spoken to me many years ago by George, a wise young island man in Antigua. When he said it, it made perfect sense to me. What he was meaning was “don’t give in and you’ll feel better.” (of course this perfectly applies to weight training.) ..read more..